I’ve been rather quiet for a few months and haven’t posted anything. I’ve simply been at a loss what to say. When I started this blog, I had a lot of ideas about what to do, how to do it, and how to keep up with other blogs. I think that was my first mistake. I’m writing about topics that I felt like I should write about but not exactly what I WANTED to write about. A lot of my writer friends write about writing.
Who better to write about writing than writers?
Not this writer.
There are blogs upon blogs about what you should or shouldn’t write – how to avoid a passive voice, how to avoid cliches, how to… how not to… – you get the point.
When I first came up for the idea of this blog, before I moved to WordPress, the whole reason I wanted to start a blog was to share information. Yes, there was a bit of a promotional intent, but I wanted a chance to say things that I didn’t get to discuss in my memoir. I wanted my memoir to flow and that wouldn’t be possible with all the topics I wanted to cover. A blog lets me discuss all those other issue that relate, but don’t fit in with my book.
I wrote a memoir about surviving sexual assault. The memoir is about what I went through and how I overcame it. This blog will let me discuss topics that didn’t fit within the story. It gives me a chance to update, to talk about how I handle situations since the book, and seeing into the everyday life of a survivor. When I discuss sexual assault, I always make a distinction between sexual assault as a child and as an adult. While everyone’s situation is unique and just as important, I know and want to stress the difference of how such a horrendous act can affect a victim differently as a child than an adult.
I did a lot of reading of memoirs of other survivors and kept running into the same situation. Most of the memoirs at the library where focused around adult victims. I read 6 memoirs, 4 of them were victimized at adults, 1 was victimized as a child but involved being abducted by a stranger, and 1 was victimized as a child by a known perpetrator. I’m not going to get into the statistics (I tend to start overloading the reader with numbers and sources), but the majority of children that are victimized are by a perpetrator that is known to the child. Usually in a place that should be considered safe. There needs to be more awareness about the most under reported crime against children. That awareness starts with survivors sharing their story.
Soooooo, to sum it all up. I’ve been quiet lately because I needed to get the nerve up to write about what I want to say, and I am at the extent of my courage today. I will finish off this article and try to find my inner calm. Stay strong.