Speaking Out About Sexual Assault

It takes great courage to finally speak about our traumas. We risk rejection, humiliation, banishment, and so much more. As an individual, we can be easily silenced, but as a whole we cannot be silenced for long.

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It takes great courage to finally speak about our traumas.

We risk rejection, humiliation, banishment, and so much more. As an individual, we can be easily silenced, but as a whole we cannot be silenced for long. Not everyone is at a place where they can speak out, but those that can should. It’s important to keep your self physically and mentally safe, but if you can speak out, it would be the most selfless action you can take to help stop this abuse. The more that speak out against sexual assault, sexual abuse, and sexual harassment, the more society will change.

This toxic rape culture that is so present today could become something of the past. Imagine a time when a sexual assault report is taken as seriously as a murder charge or theft charge. A time when the perpetrator is on trial and not the victim. A time when victims have support and perpetrators are abhorred and scorned by the public. A time when the majority of perpetrators go to prison instead of a fraction.

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With current events and recent movements like #metoo, it feels as if we are moving forward once again. More people are coming forward to tell their stories instead of staying silent. There will always be people who need to remain silent for whatever reason, and that decision is theirs and theirs alone. And that is okay. If you are not able to speak out, or don’t want to speak out. That is your decision and something that is in your control. Please never let someone make you feel ashamed because you can’t or don’t want to speak out loud about something so painful. Control was taken away, learn to take control of your life anyway you can. You may feel alone, but there are people out there who will understand and can understand what you went through.

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I first spoke out in a moment of weakness and fear. Had I known what would happen, I’m not sure I would have chosen that place and moment and time. A distraught elementary school student crying on the playground telling another child that they had been sexually abused. Immediately the school and police were involved. I was forced to tell my story over and over again. I was one of the lucky ones. After two years, one of my three abusers pleaded guilty. He went to jail. Unfortunately, it didn’t stop him.

As an adult, I am eager to share my story. It is still painful, but knowing that the pain I went through could help prevent someone from being abused or ease their journey by the slightest, is enough for me. That is why I chose to write a memoir. Instead of focusing on what I endured, I chose to write about the obstacles I had to climb over and how I did it. I know that everyone is different, but I hope that reading a success story will help build hope in strength in those who are still struggling.

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If someone close to you told you that they had been sexually assaulted by someone else that you were close to and trusted, would you believe them?

 

 

 

Unicorn Swirled Happiness?

Did you get a chance to try the Unicorn Frappe?

I had to break down and give the Unicorn Frappe a try. I know! It’s not even coffee! I don’t go to Starbucks just for coffee though. I love their non-coffee drinks a good bit. So when I read that this drink was more like a Mango Milkshake with some pizazz, I knew I would be one of those people lining up for a taste of the magical color swirls.

To start off, the colors were fantastic! The bright colors made me feel a little magical inside. I know the lengthy complaints of what they had to put in that cup to make those colors, I’ve been hearing them since the release. Unless you research and monitor everything you eat and drink, then it’s not going to be much different than what you are already consuming. Next was the taste. I’m not sure exactly what I was expecting when I received that first sip on my taste buds, but it blew my mind. To me, it tasted like those orange creamcicles that I would eat as a kid. You know the kind, they had to thin orange layer on the outside and were white on the inside.  It tasted EXACTLY like those. I gave the straw a swirl so I could see what the blue swirls were about. Apparently I didn’t do enough reading before purchasing. It was a sour blue raspberry powder. I gave it an A+ for shock value. There was a moment of regret, mostly because I really don’t like super sour stuff. After a happy squeal in my car, I swirled the straw around some more and took another drink. If you let the drink get a little melty, it starts turning from pink with blue swirls to smaller blue swirls with purple radiating away from the blue. It was pretty fun to watch.

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Needless to say, the drink was MAGICAL! I was super disappointed that they were SOLD OUT of every location in the Denver Metro area near me by the next day, so I only got the one. I’m really hoping that Starbucks will decide to bring them back, and hopefully give their poor overworked employees a raise the week they re-release it. Of course I posted pictures on Snapchat and showed everyone the magical happiness that I was gulping down. First question was if it was good, then what did it taste like. A few of my friends did point out how much sugar it had, but that didn’t bother me too much. If you get any of the sugar loaded drinks, it was comparable. See the picture below.
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This is a side by side screen shot from http://www.starbucks.com showing nutritional information of 2 drinks. One is the Unicorn Frappuccino Blended Creme and the other is the Java Chip Frappuccino Blended Coffee. Both are non-customized size Grande. The drink on the left has 59 grams of sugar while the drink on the right has 66 grams of sugar. While I left the labels off the screenshot, there is one clue as to which nutritional fact page belongs to which drink. The Unicorn Frappe is a creme blend while the Java Chip Frappe is a coffee blend. If you look at the bottom of the picture, you will see that the drink on the left with 59 grams of sugar has 0 caffeine, while the drink on the right with 66 grams of sugar has 110 milligrams of caffeine.

The Unicorn Frappe actually has less sugar, carbohydrates, and calories than the Java Chip Frappe. Now, this isn’t much of a surprise because it is a well known fact that Starbucks loads it’s blended drinks with sugar, but it might be a surprise because the colorful drink actually has less sugar (not by much) than the coffee drink.

 

Did you get a chance to try the Unicorn Frappe? How would you rate it? If you didn’t get a chance, would you try it if they brought it back?