To Memoir or Not to Memoir…

A lot of people question whether or not they should write a memoir about their life.


A lot of people question whether or not they should write a memoir about their life. I just finished writing a memoir myself and I have a lot of people tell me that I’m too young to write a memoir. So let’s talk about what a memoir actually is. A memoir talks about a specific aspect of the writer’s life. So it could be a specific event that spans a very short time, or it could be several years but still pertains to that specific event. There are a lot of misconceptions about memoirs, biographies, and autobiographies, even for those in the writing/reading world.


For example: A person is deployed overseas, sees action, and struggles with C-PTSD. If the writer limits the book to their deployment, wartime action, and the struggles they endured afterwards because of the deployment; that would be a memoir. If that same person’s book started when they were born until current day, that would be an autobiography. If a writer wrote a book about that person, studied their entire life, and wrote the book from birth until death – that is a biography. In theory, a teenager or even a child could write a memoir. Age has no correlation to memoirs.

I recently finished my memoir about surviving childhood sexual assault (CSA). It was limited to the time that I was being abused, the Complex – Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) I suffered through for years afterward, how I overcame my C-PTSD, and then the re-incarceration of my abuser when he was convicted of recently raping another child. My memoir focuses on how that abuse affected my life and the cycle of abuse. It does not talk about my life before the abuse or aspects of my life that were not affected.

When it comes to reading, I read all types of books, from memoirs and biographies to most genres of fiction. It can be hard for people to change genres or from fiction or non-fiction, but sometimes it is nice to read something from the norm.


Do you read fiction or non-fiction? What person in history would you like to read more about?

After defining a memoir, would you ever consider writing one? Have you already written one? If you would consider writing one, what would you like/need to write about?


Coffee and Writing

The idea that coffee and writing goes hand in hand, but does it really?

I’ve been writing for years now, and drinking coffee. The idea that coffee and writing goes hand in hand, but does it really? What is it about the stereotypical writer sitting in a coffee shop with their notebook writing with a steaming aromatic cup of joe always within reach?


Some people opt for tea instead of coffee, but that topic is for another day. There is no end to the possibilities when discussing tea. Back to the topic of the day. Coffee. Some enthusiasts believe that there is only one way to make a cup of coffee. A mug and hot coffee: no sugar, no cream, no additives at all. Other enthusiasts will try just about any combination once. With all the possibilities, it is hard to get into the world of life altering delicious coffee.

I must admit, there is something inspiring about sitting at a favorite spot with my preferred writing tools (paper and pen or my trusty laptop) sipping on a cup of coffee. There is an immediate dissipation of all stress in my life. Combine this with my TG Lurgen music mix on YouTube, and I don’t have a care in the world unless it involves writing.

When I walk into a coffee shop, I instantly get overwhelmed. I’m not a connoisseur of coffee. Honestly, I make my own coffee at home and just throw together a great combination of ingredients that I will never be able to exactly replicate again. I can stand in front of the menu and read the variations of lattes, macchiatos, cappuccinos, frappuccinos, and brews and not have a clue about most of it. I usually stick to macchiatos or frappuccinos depending on whether I want hot or cold.

I think it is time to go on a coffee adventure to discover all the great flavors of coffee.

What about you? Let me know if you are an expert or novice coffee drinker. What is your go to drink for writing?

First blog post

New(ish) Year, New Habits.

Happy (late… very late) New Year!

With the new year, I have decided to change a few things up and try to recommit to blogging. While I am four months late, keeping a blog current is a goal for this year and future years to come.

I have a lot of ideas for blog posts, but I also have a lot of writing ideas. Among all those writing ideas, I have a few goals for this year. I’m not going to reveal what they are just yet, but I have big plans this year.

Until next time, stay strong, stay a survivor.